April 2014
As you can see, it's been a long while since I've posted on here. You never even heard from me after I promised a new blog format in September.
My blog, my rules, though. THEREFORE, I'm pressing the reset button on this thing. I'd really like to continue to post things on here regularly again. Honestly, the last time I posted, I really did have a plan for this blog. But a few days after that things kind of got complicated in my life and the notion flew from my mind and didn't return until I revisited this site, like, now.
Before I get this going, though, I would like to issue a trigger warning for anxiety/panic, and other phenomena people can experience with panic/anxiety. I would also like to add that this post (and those that follow) is, in no way, a self-help post, and I have no real intention for it to be so. If you are looking for ways to calm your anxiety at this moment, I'm sad to say you probably won't find it here. This is just my personal account with it. If that helps you to feel more okay about your situation, or it instigates you to go get help, that's wonderful and amazing, and I wish you the best of luck.
I've not exactly made it a secret on here, at least to those who regularly kept up with my BEDA/BEDSY posts, that I have anxiety and I've been battling it intensely over the course of the past two years since, at least, my senior year of high school. I didn't have anxiety over anything in particular, rather it had pretty much seeped into every aspect of my life. It was hard to pin down; every few months, some aspect of my anxiety would change. It came and went with varying intensities throughout my first year in college, but it wasn't until this last summer that it reared its ugly head and kind of stopped me in my tracks, on more than one occasion.
First, I have to back up a few months before my last blog post, to last June/July. I had been home from school for a couple of weeks, right after finishing up my first year of college. Things were pretty good, I'd say. I didn't have much of a break because I started work two days after I got back, but you know, whatever, it happens. I got into a sort of regiment between the days that I worked and the days I had off. It was definitely a bit of a shift between my routine at school and my routine at home, which were vastly different. But things got a bit...tricky. I was settling into my routine alright but I wasn't settled. I wasn't happy. I felt uneasy all the time. It all came together on my birthday when I had a pretty bad anxiety attack during dinner with my mom that forced us to end the night early.
Things just went downhill from there. After a miserable Fourth of July weekend (which really bummed me out because it's one of my favorite holidays), I found myself at my doctor, explaining my predicament for the third time in two years. Still kind of wary on using the medication option (she had already put me on birth control to perhaps help regulate my hormones because I was definitely more anxious around my time of the month), she suggested that I try some counseling. It was one of our last options, and all of my problems appeared to be thought-based, so I figured it couldn't hurt.
The place I got referred to is apparently really hard to get into. My doctor even warned me that they often had a waiting list. A place with a waiting list has to be good, right? A few weeks went by before we heard anything back from the clinic (also, we don't call them, we had to wait for them to call us), and we eventually got a call saying they had a spot open for me.
Three sessions went by, one per week, during the last few weeks of July. They went...okay. We had pretty decent conversations. After those three sessions, though...we were kind of at a stand-still. I felt better, kind of, and I would be missing that next week's session because I was going on vacation...so we decided to part ways at that point.
After that, things were...okay. They were kind of the same as they had been before I went to counseling, and so I spent the rest of the summer in this weird anxiety zone wherein I just felt...off. But I pressed on.
Fast forward to the end of the summer. Right after I last posted a blog, I had a really bad panic attack on the drive home from work that left me stranded 20 minutes away from home and I had to wait for my mom to come pick me up. I kept having bad panic attacks on and off for the next few weeks after (once more involving me getting stranded while driving home from work). The week before I started school I went back to my doctor, and, finding that we had pretty much exhausted all other options, she prescribed me to a daily regiment of Zoloft. That lasted for a whole two days. The first day I felt pretty good. A little jittery and wonky, which is to be expected for the first few days on the drug, but, for the most part, okay. The next day...not so much.
As I woke up and started to go about my day, I began to feel like things were...not right. I had this weird buzz going through my body. I couldn't relax. I would break out in a cold sweat on and off. My mind was all over the place and I felt like I didn't have the mental capacity to complete the most simple of tasks. This would be mildly okay if this occurred in the middle of summer. But it wasn't. It happened two day before I left for school, and I had done next to nothing as far as packing or laundry or getting things organized.
Engage full-day panic mode. It was like the worst possible panic attack combined with five shots of espresso. An I honestly think the worst part of it was that I was alone; my mom was at work until almost five, and I had been up since nine, so being by myself while I was feeling so bad just made it worse. Later that day, I had to go wash my grandma's car and bring it back to her house (I was using it all summer so I could get to and from work), and that was probably one of the worst drives I've ever had in my entire life. I had to pull off to the side of the road more than once to collect myself (keep in mind: the longest distance I had to drive was, at most, maybe ten minutes). I felt dizzy. I had so much energy and I didn't know where to put it. I felt trapped as I was driving. Even when I was riding in the car with my mom (we had to run a few more errands before we got home), I was feeling the same thing.
Here's the funny thing about anxiety and panic: once you have associated a severe episode of anxiety with a particular event/place/situation, it is often very hard to disassociate that place/experience/circumstance with that one time you experience a bad emotion. Unless, of course, you ave the right tools for it which, at that point and time, I did not. And I didn't for a very long time after that. I became very wary of driving and cars for several months after, leaving me feel more and more trapped by my anxiety. I haven't driven since that day, but I have made improvement toward being able to sit in a car for an extended period of time without having so much as a blip of a freak-out.
ANYWAYS...
The rest of the night didn't go smoothly, as you can probably surmise. I couldn't relax. I was shaky and twitchy and I had trouble concentrating. I even had trouble falling asleep that night. Eventually, though, my body just kind of gave up and let me sleep for a few hours. Later, my mom told me that she almost drove me to the emergency room because I was acting so poorly.
So there I was, at school, by myself, reeling from birth control detox and Zoloft detox. I gave myself a few days to collect myself (luckily classes didn't start until a few days after I got there), because I was convinced that a lot of what I was feeling (aside from the medication detox) was nervousness about getting back to school, and getting back to my friends. But after things didn't quite settle down the way I wanted to, after many tear-filled phone calls with my mother, I knew I still had to do something about this anxiety monster that would not leave me alone. If I wanted to make it through the year, I had to do something.
To be continued...
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